Why Christian Men Must Move from "Nice" to Kingdom-Equipped

MEN... Are You Equipped For the FUTURE?

We go to church, we hear sermons, and we sing worship songs—yet most of us are not being discipled, counseled, or mentored. This creates a massive gap in the purpose of our existence.

We find ourselves spiritually sound inside the church walls but "tongue-tied" in the world. Your church might have a "Kingdom Men's Group," but you remain clueless on the oracles of the Gospel of the Kingdom. For many, Sunday is where the buck stops. You’re saved and on your way to heaven, but you aren't a CEO Warrior Christian—you aren’t battle-tested.

The church gives men truth (Praise God for that), but rarely trains them to carry it into the household, the business, or the community.

The Missing Job Description

Is Jesus the Lord of all your life, or just your Sundays? Are you actually advancing the Kingdom?

God has blessed us to be fruitful and multiply... and to have DOMINION (Genesis 1:28). That was God’s job description for YOU. Yet, many churches focus on only two things: Get Saved and Serve the Church. That is good, but it isn’t all you’ve been called to do.

Too many churches have adopted a mindset of living "harmless" rather than living HOLY. In these circles, being masculine is treated as questionable, and questioning authority is labeled as rebellion. There is more focus on being a "nice guy" than on Christ-like manhood.

The Question: What’s the difference? This "cupcake" nice-guy Christian avoids conflict, allows his wife to lead spiritually, and refuses the tough conversations that lead to restoration, reconciliation, and elevation (2 Corinthians 13:11).

Softness vs Biblical Strength

Many men today equate "gentleness" with passivity. Some even feel that being the head or a leader is prideful—unless it’s done completely behind the scenes. This man is almost like a eunuch; he thinks the drive to build and lead is "too macho." He is more interested in being SAFE (conflict-free) than pressing on courageously for what is right in the perfect will of God.

If he speaks strongly, he’s viewed as divisive. He thinks "real men" keep their heads down and don't rock the boat. But scripture never calls men to be harmless—it calls them to be HOLY (which isn’t always safe).

What a "Real Man" Looks Like

Real men don't hide underneath their wife’s dress.

• Real men conquer giants.  Real men are not afraid of the future.  Real men resist temptation and rebuild walls.  Real men are bold enough to have tough conversations.  Real men exercise authority as the Kings and Priests of their homes. A real man loves his wife, possesses character, and sacrifices. He takes the initiative rather than letting his wife control him. He is bold, courageous, and refuses to sink into people-pleasing. He takes correction, and he FIGHTS for the greater cause—rather than living harmless, lame, and soft.

The Battlefield is Calling

Your private devotions and routines are good, but they aren't necessarily equipping you for the battlefield. The challenging, dark days ahead of us require men who are ready to handle the pressure.

Currently, it’s like a soldier getting instructions in a classroom but never practicing them in the FIELD. Is that you?

Safety is not the answer for your future. When men aren't taught to "Rise Higher," feelings rule instead of conviction. Men, you were made for more than just being a "nice guy." You are restless because you were built for the battle, and it is calling you to Rise Up.

Your Mission

Don’t despair; God hasn’t abandoned His purpose for you. Instead:

1. Ask God to use you in a mighty way.

2. Repent and pick up your sword.

3. Seek His Kingdom FIRST (not yours, and not your wife’s).

Impact your church and your community. Your mission—if you choose to accept it—is to get equipped. This will empower you to be a difference-maker in the future.