It's so pitiful to see spouses PRETENDING to have a good marriage when they don't. I went to a 50-year golden anniversary celebration where everybody was toasting to 50 years - "Congratulations!" but knowing that the couple had been sleeping in separate bedrooms for 15 years. They were just playing the role rather than living the role. They didn't have sex, had lousy communications, infidelity, stubbornness, inflexibility, no Kingdom of God purpose, and just faking it all. The "image" being far more important than the laying down your life for your spouse. Yes, it's a risk, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
Marriages are BUILT on sacrifices, selflessness, and service...not to mention love, respect, and honor. Communication is also vital (knowledge/understanding/wisdom). Counseling is also wise as what vehicle, or marriage doesn't need adjustments (improvement). The foundation of IMPROVEMENT in a marriage boils down to how passionate are you about personal and spiritual growth. Many "hide" behind hangups, egos, and insecurities. They are not transparent or even accountable to somebody. This creates "blind spots" that are never addressed in the covenant union. Pride and the inability to search self brings digression. Growing MARRIAGES aren't determined by how much you have in COMMON and ignoring blind spots, but by how GRACIOUSLY you DEAL with your DIFFERENCES.
In conclusion, to win in marriage (there are no perfect ones) ...you must FIRST WIN on the inside (YOU). It starts with you and God; allowing yourself to be BROKEN and being VULNERABLE for God to MOLD you right; rather than showing how GREAT you and your marriage are which only makes you look like a fool. Nobody is PERFECT...so please allow room for THE HOLY SPIRIT to do its work.
Marriage is hard work so do it God’s way and not what’s convenient or safe to you to live as a pretender rather than truthful (Real). There comes a point in your marriage journey when you MUST decide to do it for REAL or to keep pretending. Amos 3:3
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